BYOB: Be Your Own Beautiful

Smile Laugh Black African American Color WomanJUST BYOB! Be your own beautiful! Here’s what I mean:

There were many days in my teenage years where I did not think my “pretty” equaled the next chick’s “pretty.”  Sure, my family instilled in me that I was beautiful.   I have always believed them, but there’s something that happens to teenage girls…DOUBT sets in.  Where does this doubt come from?  What changes the criteria?

A lot of the doubt starts to seep in at school when girls become “clique-ish, ” boys give certain girls attention, and the media dictate the hottest trends.  Well, when you let these things take over and remove what you know about yourself…BEAUTY…you open yourself up for a world of trouble.

1. FIND YOUR OWN CIRCLE.  Ladies, take a look inside yourself and pay attention to your peers.  Do you find common traits?  Do you like what they bring to the table?  Do you feel a friendship brewing or are you drawn to popularity or trend?  Baybeee…what’s hot today, won’t be tomorrow! Believe that!

2. YOUR WORTH IS NOT DETERMINED BY PEOPLE OR THINGS. Value yourself on the things that have “staying power.”  These types of things are those that will have an effect on you or those around you for years and years.  Are you kind to others?  Are you growing academically?  Are you happy inside?  Are you proud of yourself?  There are so many parts to you. So many places in your mind and heart that can be strengthened through the company of positive people, studying, and a healthy lifestyle!

3. DO NOT LET SOMEONE ELSE DETERMINE YOUR COOL.  Keep your values up my darlings, and your judgments low.  If you accept nothing but the best for your life, and move through it without judging your interests and coolness based on trend and pop culture.  You have won half the battle.

It can absolutely be fun to have friends you emulate, people to date, experiment with fashion, and follow some trends…  The moment you let them affect your mood or self-worth, you have lost sight of something important.  You create a path all of your own for the world to see and admire.  How can you effectively take credit for the journey, if you spent it trying to be like or with someone you believe MADE YOU SOMEBODY?

“If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.”

Henry David Thoreau