Mommyhood 101: Nobody’s Perfect

1st time? Nervous? Overwhelmed? Scared to make a mistake? Remember, you may want to be perfect, but your baby does not expect perfection.  Your baby wants your best logical effort.  Do for your child within your means with lots and lots of love!  Keeping up with others will only leave you in debt and stressed. If you focus on love, creating memories, and your personal development… financial increase and a strong bond with your child will fall into place!

I believe in God, I urge you to stay positive and prayerful!

Poetry Corner: The Side Door

I love poetry!  I think it is an interesting form of expression. One stanza can be interpreted several ways and still not hit the targeted meaning.  I rarely share my work, but feel free to read….

The Side Door

After dark and the day is done

Texting and giggling

Clinching the phone, all in flirt zone

Smiling and thinking

Should I stay or should I go?

 

He said he needs me

Hmm I wonder, what for?

Friends for a long time

Always have a good time

It might be fun to go?

 

The lady in me is trying to stay

The adventurous me wants to go play

Not tied down

No strings attached anywhere

So I say, YOLO.

 

Riding alone to my soundtrack of the night

Pull up at the front door

Looking left and right

Text him that “I made it.”

Wait for the signal to go

To my surprise…

He advised me to enter the side door.

 

The side door?

Ok, how cute and private?

It cuts out the walk of shame

Once inside I try to hide

The nervousness that came

A cup to relax

Another to suppress my logic

Half a glass more

my friend wants more

 

We end the night

Just as flirty as the start

Bedroom glances

Transferred lip gloss

And I head for the door

 

I jump in the car

Wave from afar

So Chill, yet so unsettled

My perspective became clear

 

Historically, sistas hated these doors

Entryways of slaves and underlings

Openings for sneakin’ and creepin’

A door for a secret

A SIDE CHICK ENTRANCE

No relationship in the stars

No family meetings in the cards

No need to call Miss Cleo.

 

This thing was a secret and nothing more

I filled the empty seat

Drank from the second glass

I was company and nothing more

I said to myself:

Don’t mistake it for more

Remember you entered the side door

Friends Forever Only

Because anything more would include:

Sunshine and special treatment

An Introduction to Moms

And a proud escort through the front door.

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What’s Your Imprint?

I’m bacimprintk…My people! I hope that you have been truly living out the time you are given.  Life is precious.  If you have not realized how precious, just wait until someone that you love more than yourself has to leave this earth.  Some of you are ready to close this window and look for the latest Kardashian news, but I am just trying to be real.

For just a moment, think about how you want to be remembered.  Do you care about the photos in the program of your memorial service?  Do the memories people share on that day matter to you? 

I can answer all of those in one word, NO.  Surely, people who plan every detail are wonderful because it takes a lot of pressure away from the family, but what will you leave behind.  What imprint will you leave on those who knew you?

Perhaps you are thinking, “Imprint? This world is built on the premise that every man is for himself.”  Well,  I want to tell you that the life you lived while people could see, hear, touch, and interact with you should speak louder than any words that you or anyone could author in your obituary.  It is more that donating change to needy children in the supermarket or offering someone a ride.  While these actions are noteworthy and certainly bless someone, I want you to dig deeper.  It is more that spending time with friends and being kind and generous to people that you like.

Your imprint can be larger than the people you CHOOSE to be around.  It is larger than your children, greater than your lifelong friends and even deeper than being a devoted spouse.  Kindness toward people you love is easy, try being nice to people you do not know.  Invest in a young person that is not related to you because you have some extra time or money, not because you are asked.

There are so many kindnesses you can bestow on people from day to day, but keep in mind that your imprint is more that what you do.  It is your heart.  What parts of your heart do you leave on your timeline?  The judgmental pieces? X-Rated segments?  Some how our society has the idea that technology at your finger tips means freedom of speech at the expense of your dignity and heart.  Try your best to be the best version of you in the streets, at home, in church, at work and online!

None of us are perfect, but people that have nothing to say in person (negative or positive) often have no problem dragging someone on the internet for anything!  It really bothers me.  While I believe the internet is great place for discussion of any kind, some people have no tact.

What am I getting at?  Your voice speaks for you and tells your life story just as much as your actions.  There are three kinds of people in your friends lists:  genuine family/friends, people that pay attention to keep in touch, and internet trolls.

Do not let the trolls surprise you, they exist offline too.  People that text you just to see if you are having less fun than they are on holidays, those who have nothing positive to say about you and blame you for it, and folks that invite themselves out with you just to negatively tear your outing apart.

Live to give of your energy.  Live to ignite someone else positively.  Live to be remembered for being a blessing.